If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the last ten years, it’s that life has seasons (LOTS of seasons), the seasons are constantly changing and never seem to stick around long, and that each season has been so distinctly different from any before it. Sadly, I hear so many people complain about the season of life they’re in, wishing they could move onto the next one. I can relate because I’ve been there as well. I was there for a LONG time. But I’ve also learned the importance of embracing the season of life you’re in, which is what I want to talk about in this blog post.
Change happens a lot in the early years of adulthood, meaning most seasons don’t last long. And I feel like I’ve been through even more seasons in my twenties than most people my age.
I can still remember the feeling of being in high school, so anxious to graduate and move onto college and the next season of my life. And when I did, I found myself missing my high school friends desperately.
In the last two years of college, I couldn’t wait to graduate and start my real life. And yet when I graduated, I missed the security blanket of having all of my closest friends living within a few block radius, and the familiarity of the job and school that had been a part of my first four years of adulthood.
Since graduating college, I’ve gone through more seasons still, and more significant ones. There were the years that my then-fiance and I were financially recovering from moving to a more expensive city, not spending money on ourselves for two years because we were saving for a wedding, and immediately starting over once the wedding was over to start saving for a house.
It seemed that I had finally figured out the rest of my life with the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, but we just couldn’t afford to live it.
There was the season where we had purchased our first home, were (seemingly) happily married, and enjoying making the house our own with our two pets.
And just over a year later, in an even more drastic change, I was divorced, single for the first time since I was 20, and moving from my beautiful home into a studio apartment. It’s safe to say that change in seasons brought more stress and anxiety than the rest combined.
Over a year has passed since then. I’ve moved onto a new season of life, and my favorite one yet. And honestly, the last year has been even MORE proof to me that it’s okay to find things to enjoy in each and every season because better things ARE coming. And you’ll regret making yourself so miserable in your previous seasons.
Each season I’ve been through has taught me a LOT, but I never realized it at the time. It wasn’t until I had moved onto something new that I realized how incredibly valuable the lessons from my past were.
The older I get, the more I realize that unhappiness is a choice. The circumstances of your life and the people that surround you can’t control your emotions. Only you can do that. And I wish I’d done a better job of that at certain points in my life!
So the next time you’re finding yourself disliking your life because of the season of life you’re in remember that:
- Seasons of life are temporary. Where are you now, you won’t be forever.
- Many things that contribute to our unhappiness are our choice. If your unhappiness is caused by your job, your relationship, toxic friendships, etc., you have the power to change your situation. No person or circumstance can control your emotions.
- Regardless of the season you’re in, find something to enjoy about it. Look for the positive parts of every situation.
So if you’re living your life on auto-pilot and just closing your eyes until the current season of life has passed, I urge you to reconsider. Because someday you may look back with regret on this season and wish you had embraced it.
What about you? What is your favorite thing about your current season of life, or are you struggling to get through yours?